Friday, July 14, 2006

The Real Me

Laura posted about being genuine on her blog and hoping that her readers would find her the same if they met her in real life. I would hope that's true, and although I don't try to portray myself in some "larger (and better) than life" fashion, I know that I come across differently on my blog (because my real life friends have told me so!).

My sister-in-law said that she liked my blog, and it was sometimes funny. People who know me in real life know that I am hilarious! Okay, not really. I do have a good sense of humor, and some people do in fact think I am as funny as I think I am.

My friend Danielle (who does think I'm hilarious) said that she was glad to see that there was a mushy side to me. I myself had noticed that of my writing. Honestly, I come across in real life as not very sentimental. I am certainly not all mushy. But there is something about the introspection of writing that brings those thoughts that really are in my heart, to the surface. Also, I do think that I am becoming more that way as I get older and I watch my kids growing up.

It is also easier for me to write my true thoughts than to actually say them. Not because I do not like to talk. Because that I do. Maybe it is because I do talk so freely, saying whatever thought pops into my head, often without a filter, that my more meaningful thoughts get lost in the flood.

So, I'm not sure what the bottom line is. I think that Blog Jennifer and Real Life Jennifer are both real people. Neither of us is trying to be something that we are not, but we are a bit different. I'm sure many of you have realized that Younger You is different than Present You. And when you are with old friends and family, sometimes you are more Younger You than Present You. I think it's like that.

So, at the request of Lee, who knows both Jennifers, here's a picture of me at our pirate themed Son Treasure Island Vacation Bible School this week, looking not at all serious or introspective:

19 comments:

Katrina said...

Love the picture! I'm glad to know both Jennifers, and I agree with your thoughts about "blog alter egos." I think that in writing (be it blog or otherwise), I process things a little differently, or a little more, and that comes across. It's not a different me, just a different side of me.

Dana said...

I am the sister-in-law mentioned in todays blog and I just wasnted to say that I too believe Jennifer to be funny!I was suprised at how serious her blog is at times. BBut I will say over the uyears Jennifer has a lot of good things to say and now she can share things with more people!
Still stay funny though sis!

Dianne said...

I just know the blogging Jennifer but you come across to me as being very real. I think it's great you share your blog with family too. Only my sis (as far as I know) reads mine, but then I'm not sure other family members would "get it." I think like Katrina said, a different part of our brain is engaged when writing, so our writing reveals a different side of us.

I have to tell you, one of my fav authors is L'Engle. Right now I'm rereading A Circle of Quiet. Some people don't care for it because it's just her personal introspections she's sharing. But as I read your blog today - I felt like I was reading something she'd written! That's a compliment, in case it doesn't come across that way!

Gina said...

Sometimes I have to tame my realness on line and realize people don't always need to know (and don't want to know) every little detail about every part of my life.

Thanks for being real!

Jennifer said...

Thanks for the nice comments from those of you who know me here and really know me in life.

Dana--I'll make sure to crack you up, but you have to keep saying nice things about me (and keep commenting instead of just lurking).

Dianne--I don't think I've read that L'Engle book, but yes that's a compliment. I've read several of her novels. The one that I really remembered sticking with me was A Live Coal in the Sea. It's been a while since I read it. I might have to do a reread. Also, I just got a Lisa Samson fiction book (my first) so I'm excited to delve in upon your recommendation.

Gina--I also do a lot of filtering here. My real life friends don't benefit from that, but like you, I try to steer away from sharing the boring details here.

e-Mom said...

I LOVE this photo! What a hoot!

I'm convinced that those of us who are bloggers are also serious writers/thinkers. Our blogs give us a chance to express our deeper thoughts and feelings--and to read those of our blogging friends. We're all in the same boat. I really do love the depth of thought I find in the blogosphere. So don't worry about being too serious... we love it!

Jen Robinson said...

What a fun photo! And an interesting discussion, too. I'll have to ask people who know me personally and also read my blog if I'm different. I don't think so, but of course they're both me, so I wouldn't really see it. But I think that you're funny, anyway.

eph2810 said...

Hehe - I am back.
What I was trying to say this morning:
I think that I am more myself on my blog than when I am around people. I can 'pour' out my heart and my thoughts. I can be funny too, but that is 'hard' work for me. I am not saying that I am boring, but I am a tad on the more seriuos side in real life. And on my blog I don't have people interrupt me when I am 'speaking'...you see, I am very soft spoken...and people tend not to 'hear' me...I am not sure if this came 'out' how I meant it *grin*...I think that is a great topic you have posted - thank you. I might pick it up next week on my blog - not sure yet...
Have a blessed evening.

eph2810 said...

Forgot one thing earlier - enjoyed the picture you as a pirate - hehe...

Tammy said...

Great picture, matie! :) And my girls both went to that pirate themed VBS here in the northwest, too!

And I know exactly what you mean...there is something about the "self" that comes to the surface when I write, too.

Code Yellow Mom said...

Ha! I've thought about wanting to get together with my favorite bloggers, and the thought has been followed by anxiety over what the blog me is and what the real me is. Would people be disappointed? Surprised? You are right - both mes are the same - I try not exaggerate or misrepresent myself - but there is a freedom and a reserve all at the same time when I blog. I can write things that I can't say in real life, and I can hold back some parts of real life from the blog. Funny schizo-blogo-phrenicism we've created, huh?

Anonymous said...

You are truly hilarious and I'm glad you know that I think you are. I love the blog jennifer too, it's just new (not that I didn't know you had a sentimental side, just that you don't choose to share it as freely as you do on your blog).

Brandi said...

Hey BLIEND,

I am just like that. I don't talk in elegant pros or sentimental sonnets. Instead I cut up a lot. It is much easier for me to write my feelings than speak them. Thanks for sharing.

Shelledpeas said...

Well, you are hairier than I remember, and yes you seem more serious in your blog than say fifteen years ago when we were in college, but your blog has been a great challenge to me to maybe tak those moomens we often take for granted and use them to better glorify God.

Hey -- how are you liking the Red Tent?

Crystal Breeze said...

Your soooo funny....

I find it easy to post my thoughts into words too than rather speak them and share them out loud. I think I can beat that funny pic. Check my blog out on Sunday, July 16th.

Jeannine said...

I thought of the Pirates of the Caribbean right away! :-)
My daughter went with friends tonight to see it for the second time.

Lee said...

Love that photo. I never thought of Blog Jennifer v. Real Jennifer. To me, you are the same in blog as in person. It's your thought process that is revealed.

Liz(fellow blackbeard) said...

As eye witness to the blackbearded Jennifer last week, it was even funnier in person! I would forget her sudder hair growth and she would turn around and startle me. Jennifer you are hilarious and very real in life or on the screen! God bless you and your courage to be real, and really funny!

Beck said...

That is one fantastic beard.
I know that I'm not quite myself online - I'm more thoughtful, for one. IN real life, I'm a big bonehead.