My husband does not read my blog (do yours?).
So, last night after he had gotten back in town, I pulled up my blog to show him the "Vote for my glasses" post, since part of the reason I had taken the photos was to show him the options. (Have you voted yet?)
He saw the post at the top. "Peace in the Philippines? What's that?" He knows me quite well, and would be right to question why I would be writing about that. Politics and current events do not hold my interest. I know that they should, but they don't.
I corrected him by telling him that was my sixth entry in my week long series called Peace in Philippians. "You wrote all that? Or you just copied it from somewhere?" he questioned. "I'm not a hack," I replied. "Yes, I wrote it."
My husband is not a words of affirmation kind of guy. Reading the Five Love Languages really helped our marriage. I explained to him that I was a words of affirmation kind of gal. He still doesn't get it. One time I pulled up something for him to read on here, and he read it and said, "You really like to write, huh?" I think that really meant, "Wow, this is really good. I can't craft words like you do." So, no, reading this book did not change my husband into a consummate compliment-giver. However, what it did do was make me realize that I needed verbal acknowledgement. So, when I clean the house (which is an event worthy of praise), I prod him by asking, "Doesn't the house look clean?" When I make a new dinner that he seems to be enjoying, I ask, "So--do you like this new recipe?" It may seem unromantic and forced, but after thirteen years of marriage, it works for us. I remind him to speak up so that I don't end up feeling unloved or unnoticed. The other wonderful thing that this book helped me realize was that he was showing his love to me in so many other ways. Being a Quality Time person and an Acts of Service person, when he sweeps out the garage, or invites me to sit with him while he's watching a ballgame on TV, he is saying, "I love you. You're a wonderful wife, and I enjoy the pleasure of your company!" So, I take it as such. And of course in reading it, I learned that it really matters to him that I am putting forth the effort to make sure that cluttered hot spots are cleaned up, or that he has clean clothes and a meal on the table. This book gives descriptions of all five languages, and by the time you finish, you can easily identify yours and those of your loved ones. Although it is written for married couples, knowing these principles helps you with other relationships as well. There is a whole series, including specific books on showing love to your children, teenagers, and one written for singles.
He became much more interested in the blog when I showed him this:
So, we are selling, if anyone is looking to buy. I think we'd even come down off the asking price a bit, so make an offer. . . .