Have you ever thought that your perception of my reality isn't real either? And neither is my perception of yours. My friend Amy had called me wanting to know my secret for doing it all--playing with my kids, controlling and disciplining them, reading my Bible daily, cleaning my house, and even blogging. I assured her that I didn't do it all. I don't usually watch TV during the day, but I am on this computer a lot, writing or reading blogs. I have chosen to get up earlier and/or stay up later to give myself some guilt-free time to do it. That aside, there are times when the lure of the computer causes me to neglect other relationships or responsibilities, and I know that (and try to admit it). We can't do it all, and we shouldn't pretend like we do.
"Remember, we all stumble, every one of us. That's why it's a comfort to go hand in hand."On that phone call, Amy had shared some misadventures of her children that had discouraged her, and wondered if mine ever caused trouble. When I went upstairs the next morning after Kyle had been up in his room, I found a mess in the hallway. He had emptied out several boxes of cards, and several of Amanda's games--pulled from the shelf and played with in the best way a toddler knows how. I called her up the next day and told her that I wanted to share some of our recent misadventures. I told her about the mess in the hallway, and how I thought of her that morning when I found some colored sand behind my trashcan as I was sweeping the kitchen. The week before Kyle had found some of Amanda's sand art bottles that were stuffed in a random drawer. As I was cleaning up mess number one, he was walking through the kitchen with the second bottle, which I had not taken away, and was making his own sand art all over the kitchen floor.~ Emily Kimbrough ~
She told me that she wasn't glad for me that there had been trouble, but yes it did make her feel a little better that she wasn't the only one who struggled. The kind of friends that I want to walk hand in hand with are the ones with whom I can share my excitement over a child's achievement, but also laugh (or cry) over a frustration as well. I want them to expect a certain standard and encourage me to do better, but not to judge me too harshly when I fail.
It's great to share the good things. I am inspired when I witness a friend changing her ways in response to God's leading. Hearing about sacrifices made remind me that it's not all about me. Hearing about fun projects encourage me to try new things with my own kids. But sometimes seeing or hearing about the stumbles is a great reminder that none of us is perfect. We can try, but there's only one person who was perfect, and His name wasn't Martha Stewart.
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