Saturday, October 07, 2006

The Birth Order Book

What a great book! I learned so much about myself. I also learned how to better understand and deal with everyone who has ever been born into a family. Yes, that is everyone. Specifically, this book gives you insight into relating with your own siblings, why your parents may have raised you the way they did, how to best interact with your children in accordance to their birthplace in the family, and even some tips about the workplace. Another useful tip (for an assertive firstborn as myself) is how to identify and deal with perfectionism. "But I'm not a perfectionist," I thought. Well Dr. Leman deals with this argument right away by introducing the discouraged perfectionist. Honestly, I didn't score too high on the quiz at all, but I did find this section of the book very useful. I did identify myself as one of those "bossy types who wants to run the show" first borns, while I could see the compliant first born characteristics in my husband. I'll let you pick up this book and find yourself and your kids and your siblings right there on the pages. I guarantee that you will.

He identifies strengths and weaknesses of first borns, onlies, middle and youngest children. There are even specific chapters on marriage challenges and benefits depending on your birth order matchup. Another interesting chapter was dealing with your personal lifestyle and life theme, and overcoming thoughts of "I only count when. . . ."

This is my first Kevin Leman book, but it won't be my last. I thoroughly enjoyed his writing style, use of humor in his examples, and practical advice.

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Fall Reading Challenge: two finished, making progress on six others, six still in the wings.


15 comments:

Anonymous said...

I loved this book also it made me be able to relate to my middle child better (I am a bossy older child myself) =)

Katrina said...

I really liked this book, too, although it's been years since I read it. It helped me understand my husband better - he is the third of eight kids. And I think it's great for parents to understand our kids and all the dynamics (including us!) that affec them. Thanks for the review - and good job on your challenge progress! :)

blestwithsons said...

I loved that book. It brought new understanding for me of my husband, as well. He is a second born who pulled a role reversal and took over the firstborn spot.

I love the bit about making sure your firstborn gets the birthright...though mine is getting a bit carried away with it at the moment. ;-p

Anonymous said...

I read this book a long time ago and enjoyed it. Although I always felt like my younger sister was the "bossy" one! :)

Carrie said...

I have had this book on my shelf to read for awhile. I've heard a lot about it. Your review reminded me I need to get to it!

Susanne said...

I've read bits and pieces of this book but would like to read the whole thing! A lot of people on the Fall Reading Challenge are reading his book called Sheet Music. Took me about 6 sites before I caught on to the play on words of the title. Duh! :vD

Tammy said...

I've always heard of this one, but haven't read it...now you got me thinking I should pick it up. Thanks for the recommendation, Jennifer!

gail said...

I read this book years ago too and loved it. I thought it helped me with my children and understand where hubby and I fit too. We are both firstborns and I think this is the book where I read that wasn't a good combination! It has some helpful info in it and has probably been updated since I read it so I might should get it again sometime! Thanks for the review.

kailani said...

I've always been interested in this topic. Thanks for the book recommendation!

e-Mom said...

Another first born here. Being the eldest certainly has its privileges. However, over the years I realized I lost out on some of the "nurturing" my younger siblings received. My mother was the second born, so she tried to give my younger sister some of the perks she missed out on. As a Mom, I've tried to give my daughter lots of TLC to compensate for being the firstborn. And so it goes! I haven't read this book-- thanks for the review.

mira said...

I too loved this book. It was almost frightening how clearly he described my three kids. At one point I could have sworn that he must have been secretly taping our house because the descriptions were so spot on. Amazing stuff.

Amy said...

My mom loves this book and has encouraged me to read it for awhile. Thanks for sharing! I'll have to hunt it down now! :)

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