Friday, December 01, 2006

Fledgling

The baby eagle tests his wings, staying close to mama bird until he's ready to fly.

n 1: any new participant in some activity [syn: newcomer, fledgeling, starter, neophyte, freshman, newbie, entrant] 2: young bird that has just fledged or become capable of flying

I think that we are potty training here. Kyle is 2 1/2. He has been showing signs of readiness for several months actually (and I know that all kids aren't ready at this age, but I think he is), but it just sort of hit me recently, "He's two and a half! It's time." My daughter was already out of diapers by 2 1/2 (although not at nap or night time, I'm sure). I just kept thinking, "He can't be old enough already?" Where does the time go? He's my last, but I've seen him getting those wings ready to fly in the last few months--talking more, playing and exploring in new, bigger ways, helping me get himself dressed. . . . He's growing up.

Preschool is next, friends, riding a trike and then a bike, and before I know it, I'll be marrying him off. I'm sure that those of you whose children have left the nest can testify to that. He's my last, and it's been a while since I had a toddler in the house, so I can appreciate it for all its wonder (and frustration).

We bought the potty chair today, and he likes it, but it's still a game. A game that he is very much in control of. I'm going to really give it a try this week. I've been reading Potty Training for Dummies and even though the couple of reviews on amazon aren't very favorable, I have loved it. It is the perfect combination of really practical advice and recommendations (on potty chairs, books and more) coupled with inspiration and motivation that I need (because, like most moms, I hate potty training). I have bought several of the Dummies books, and let me just say, that even though I'm no dummy, I love the books in this series.

So, if you have any potty training encouragement, advice or commiseration, let me have it. This is one step in Kyle's learning to fly on his own that I can gladly accept with no bittersweet wishes that he would stay little, so let's do this thing!

14 comments:

Big Mama said...

I have no real advice other than to remember the potty training is a marathon, not a sprint. And sometimes it's a messy, wet marathon.

angeleyes Blue said...

Oh Jennifer--I have warm fuzzies from reading your post. :) I am sure you know maybe not but I am the mom who was pregnant for two years with the exception of 5 weeks. Two in diapers is not a recommended experience but it is the process. I love my kids.

My husband & I knew that our son (2.5) was poddy trained when we heard someone using the bathroom in the middle of the night. We ever so quietly crept up to the bathroom and took a peek. Imagine our surprise and relief when it was our son. He looked at us and said I'm doing this right?!

We praised him and that was that.

Our daughter was a different story. She was mostly trained so I had a retirement party for Mr. Diaper--All our friends gave my kids underwear as a present.

It didn't stick with our daughter so I put her back into pull-ups for 6 months. No Biggie

She took care of it herself. We were moving from San Francisco CA to Salt Lake City Utah. She refused to wear pull-ups on the plane. No stress there $&%#!

We arrived at the airport in SLC and daddy said that didn't she need a pull-up change and she sternly STATED NO DADDY I am fine. We were done.

During the training I tried to habit train my kids first. Ask them if they have to go potty at the same time everyday and put them on the pot. Praise them if they used it.

Just remember that it will happen when it happens. No one goes to college in diapers. Best advice I ever got!
Pamela
Have a great day!

Anonymous said...

Kyle is so cute - love the picture! I agree with the others - just remember that sometimes it takes time, don't make it a battle, etc. I remember buying a huge bin of little plastic vehicles (seriously, it had about 100 little cars, etc. in it) that we used for rewards. That seemed to help. But mostly it was just a matter of him being ready.

Jennifer said...

Yeah, potty training in a day? In what world? I have memories of the places that Amanda had "accidents." I remember leaving a store with a puddle of the floor. Thank goodness it was vinyl, not carpet.

Pamela--I didn't know that about you, and training two in the span of six years is about all I can handle, since mine are 5 1/2 years apart, lol. Thanks for all the good advice. Getting up on his own in the middle of the night is really great. And yes, once it's over, you can remember it with warm fuzzies.

Katrina--the really funny thing about that picture is that I took it when my grandmother was here, and he would NOT pose for a picture with her, or by the stream or anything. I just happened to catch him here looking in the general direction of the camera. You reminded me of that, and I hope it doesn't foreshadow the experience of potty training.

Barb said...

I can honestly say I barely remember the potty training of my two girls. So I'm thinking it wasn't very difficult or I'm sure I would remember it. This makes me realize I'm going to be doing this with my little grandson in about a year. Ugh.

As for how fast the years go by, yes ma'am. You have no idea how right you are.

Angeleyes Blue said...

Our son was ahead of his time. He was walking at 6 months--I have it on video tape to prove it. I wish pottying took a day. Habit training the kids made for a more pleasant experience. We would joke about it.

I did have a friend at the time who potty trained her twins in the summer. She just let them loose in the backyard running in the buff. They figured things out really quick. Wrong time of year for that.

I also had another friend who sat her two little ones in front of the tube in trainng pants and wouldn't let them leave. Her two were trained really fast.

Both methods were not my cup of tea. My kids are creatures of habit so habit trainng worked well.

They are still like that so am I come to think of it. Alarm goes off in the AM and I head to the bathroom. What is that about?

Funny thing is the kids...now teens head to the bathroom first thing every morning.

Enjoy these times. Teenagehood is amazing and scary. Did I teach them everything they need to survive in this world. I often need to remind myself, take a deep breath and relax.

I will always be here for any fallout?!? Right? Sometimes my son will bubble over with information so much so I tell him Kevin WAY to much information for your MOM! We both laugh and he always says just wanted you to know. I appreciate that %$#%@^

L.L. Barkat said...

The best advice I ever got was from a friend with three children... when they're ready, they'll do it.

In my second child's case, she got ready when Big Sis said one day, "Hey, do you want to wear underwear?"

lady laura said...

My son was nearly three when he was trained. It literally was over in 3 days, never a night accident or anything. I realize that sounds ideal, but it happened with us. He was just "ready".
I have potty-trained dozens of kids through my work and my best advice is every kid is different. What works for some won't work for others so don't beat yourself up if "Betty Sue's" plan doesn't work for you.

That being said, I start by observing. Most kids will show they are ready by being aware of and making a sign that they are wet or dirty. When I see that on a regular basis, I start asking them if they need to go potty. If they say yes, we go. If they say no, we go get a clean diaper and talk about how nice it feels to be clean and dry,etc.

After a week or two of that, I start asking them every hour on the hour, then I start taking them every hour on the hour (except naptime).
When the magic happens, we make a big deal out of it with stickers, praise and, for the most difficult child, a teeny tiny prize.
Sometimes it takes what seems like a long time, but eventually ever kid is potty trained.

(I don't recomment pull-ups as they are absorbant and the child doesn't feel the discomfort of being wet which is a great motivator. However, plenty of people have used them and love them.)

Now that I've written a small post here, I will end by saying that with the parents I work with, what seems to be the key, and what gives the most trouble, is consistency. If it is easier for the parent to have the child in a diaper than to take them potty umpteen times a day, it slows the process down.

Perhaps some bit of all that helps. I hope.....

Wendy said...

I haven't seen this book. I'll have to look for it as I am entering that stage again.

What a sweet picture!

Anonymous said...

Oh he is so cute! All I have to say though is you better hope he doesn't find out about this post someday when he's older - hehe!

Good luck with the PT. Like I tell my sis & SIL - I've never met a school age kid not potty trained; it will happen sooner or later!

Susanne said...

Somehow you turned a post about potty training into something beautiful. Now that is some writing, girl!!

With dayhome, it seems I'm always in the midst of potty training.

Dana said...

I found all these comments to be great and helpfull. And as always I will let Jennifer try first and then copy her methods!

Dad said...

"Your last"? Then, I guess Isabella is my last grandchild. Love them all, but five is OK. FYI, I plan to be around for the greats, but later than sooner will be best.
Love

Anonymous said...

Bittersweet, isn't it? I've written about potty training ad nauseum...who would have thought I'd miss those diapers after 13 straight years with them in our house? Well, maybe not the diapers (shoo-ee!) but the stage they represent. Sad!

He'll do great when he's ready. And so will you!