"I am the one holding the keys to the atmosphere in our home."
~ Terry Maxwell ~
Thanks to Christine at Fruit in Season for a great quote! I've still been working on my patience and kindness around here, and as I do so, I notice a huge difference in the days on which I am displaying this fruit, and the days on which I am not.
When I am able to show these fruits and be the kind of mom and wife that I want to be, my husband can come home to the haven that his home should be after work. When I don't, I imagine his thoughts are along the lines of, "Do I have to deal with strife here, too?"
My daughter can obey cheerfully, when I live out the example of patience. When I am kind in my requests, she is kind, too. Not only in following directions, but in going above and beyond as well.
I don't want to talk about my son right now. We're potty training, I think. I say "I think," because I'm not sure what key I am holding right now. Does the key unlock a door to frustration and a battle of wills? If so, who's will is more important--his in saying, "I don't want to do this right now," or mine, which observes, "I know you can, but you are choosing not to." I already made a plea for help and encouragement, and got some great advice (if you are interested, read the comments from my wise readers). The issue is not physical readiness, but a battle of wills, which I will have to decide if I choose to fight.
She who holds the key also unlocks the door. Which door will I choose? Can I choose to unlock those doors that hold the fruits that I am desperately trying to squeeze into my home? Can I keep the ones locked up that hold my selfish nature, such as laziness, impatience, lack of compassion?
So, between getting ready for Christmas, working a new part-time job, and trying to institute the discipline and routine required in potty training, you can see why my posting has been more sporadic. If I let certain things go, I am able to focus a little bit more on the greater good. I've realized that when I am making a choice that I think will be best for me in the short run, that unless I consider the effect of the household in general, I may not be creating an atmosphere that is best for me. Even if I end up sacrificing something for myself--a little sleep or some downtime--if my family ends up happier in the wash, I find that I rest a little easier myself.