Rachel over at Home Sanctuary asked, "What's Your Slogan?". Since I go around telling you when I said yes, I think that it's only right to share the thoughts that this post brought about for me.
I say "Maybe," or "We'll see". . . a LOT. The eight-year-old has it figured out. She knows that "We'll see" usually means "no." In a sense, she's right, but actually what it really means is, "The answer is no right now, and I don't want to argue about that, so I'm going to hold off on issuing the no, because I might feel like a yes later, but if you begin arguing with me, you will lose that possible yes opportunity."
The "Maybe" is usually for the two-year-old. He likes routine. He likes to know what's coming up next. So, as we're driving home ("Home? Going home now?"), he then starts in with the other questions, "Watch Thomas? Watch Thomas at home?" or if we've had donuts any time recently, the question might be, "Eat donuts?" Honestly, I don't know what kinds of things I put him off with Maybe about, because most of his activities are completely approved and welcomed. I think that some of the Maybe's come from areas in which I am truly uncertain. "Dora? Dora coming on next?" If I'm not sure, and don't have the remote handy to check the guide (That is my absolute favorite thing about Direct TV!), I have to say, "Maybe." But I know that it is an expected response for him, because now he will often answer his own questions. "Watch Dora? Maybe? Maybe later." So I'm going to listen to myself more to determine where all of these Maybes are coming from. (Between the time I started writing this and now, I was putting him down for a nap. He was telling me the books he wanted me to read, in addition to the two I already read to him. I told him, "Maybe".) It's an answer he accepts, which is likely why I use it so often. Remember I'm dealing with a two-year-old now, and since he has hit two-and-a-half, if he doesn't like the answer he gets, he has been known to throw himself down in a full-blown fit.
Another disturbing little phrase that the parrot has picked up is, "I'm busy. Busy now." He will give this answer to his big sister if he doesn't want to do what she wants him to do, "Not. I busy. Busy now." He gives it to me when it's time for lunch and he's playing with his trains. When he first started saying that, of course I thought, "Where in the world did a two-year-old learn to say he was busy!" I quickly decided that it must be from me. But I'm fairly certain that I don't often tell him that. He has been able to work the DVD and VCR players for almost a year. So, if he decides he doesn't like what he's watching, he fixes that himself. No need for me to make him wait with an "I'm busy" (on the computer, fixing dinner etc). Amanda thinks that he may have learned it from her, so I'll have to listen. I think he may have picked it up from me telling her that. Because while an eight-year-old is more self-sufficient than a two-year-old, she is also more argumentative and insistent, and if she wants something she wants it now, not Maybe Later, so she might end up getting the "I'm busy right now," as a final answer.
So, you've heard my slogans, and Kyle's. Amanda's is probably "But Mom. . ." going along with that argumentative thing. What's yours?