Do you not know, brothers—for I am speaking to men who know the law—that the law has authority over a man only as long as he lives? For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is released from that law and is not an adulteress, even though she marries another man.This was a big a-ha for me when it finally sunk in. This is the second time that I have studied Romans in BSF, and I've studied Romans through other means over the years as well. The part about dying to the law has always been clear to me. Because Jesus died on the cross, His undeserved death pays the debt for all my sin. So, in spite of the fact that I have sinned and will continue to sin, I am promised eternal life with a holy God. Thus, God's grace reigns, as opposed to the law's penalty. My last Romans post was a thorough look at being Dead to Sin, which helped me work through the idea of belonging to only one master (even though it seems that since I still sin, sin still has dominion over me).
So, my brothers, you also died to the law through the body of Christ, that you might belong to another, to him who was raised from the dead, in order that we might bear fruit to God. For when we were controlled by the sinful nature, the sinful passions aroused by the law were at work in our bodies, so that we bore fruit for death. But now, by dying to what once bound us, we have been released from the law so that we serve in the new way of the Spirit, and not in the old way of the written code.Romans 7:1-6
If I choose to be dominated by sin by allowing myself to be controlled by sin, then I bear fruit for death. If I accept Jesus' death and atoning work (His sinless life paid for my sin), then I belong to Him. The fruit I bear belongs to Him. Fruit is a term that refers to changes in you that are a result of you belonging to Christ, for example the power to share Christ with someone else, possibly resulting in their salvation or new choices for them, mastery over areas of sin in your life, a changed character such as a peaceful outlook in the midst of trying circumstances, newfound love and compassion for others, or a more giving outlook.
God wants all of us. He wants us to be faithful and loyal brides. He doesn't want most of us, or what's left after we give of ourselves to our husbands and children and of course take all that "me-time" that we deserve. If you told your husband that he had 90% of your heart, but that 10% was still reserved for that high school sweetheart or the fantasy of the perfect husband, that wouldn't be acceptable. God desires the same of us. Just like we wear many different hats, and give our attention to other people and things (children, hobbies, a job, friends, ministry), we truly only belong to one husband. We are bound by law and by life to that one person. Although we are unfortunately pulled in many directions, including our own temptation to sin, we can still make sure that by circumstance and by our life that we belong only to Jesus. If you've made the choice to align yourself to Him, to submit to His lordship, and to grow in Him, then I think that you are spiritually wed to Him. If you are wavering, in forsaking something that you know you should forsake, or in making a full commitment to Him, then you are committing spiritual adultery. Remember that you are His bride and your true allegiance should be towards Him.
I don't have all the answers, by any means, but if you ever have any questions about any of this, feel free to email me or leave a comment and I'll get back to you in the comments. We are heavy into Christian doctrine--the whats, hows, and whys, and it's not easy.