Thursday, February 15, 2007

What Are You Waiting For?

There are leaps to take into the pool---even in my ugly skirted bathingsuit. There are fine art museums to discover, and concerts to attend. There are new haircuts to try, and friends to call. There are blogs to read and there are moments to journal. There are songs to be sung and hot baths to take. There are moments to cry and then there are moments to hug your loved ones. There are arts and crafts galore just waiting for you to try.
This is a quote from a post Lindsey wrote about just living your life. I highly recommend that you read the whole thing (scroll down to February 12). It's passionate. It's heartfelt. And it's true.

Most of us have things that we have to do. We wait for just the right time. We wait to take that romantic beach vacation with our husband until we look good in a swimsuit. Put on that skirt and jump in. One thing I've learned from my many trips to beaches, is that no matter what you look like, there will always be lots of bodies there who look better than you, and lots who look worse than you. Trust me on this one if you've never witnessed it for yourself.

Laura quoted Peter Walsh as saying, "Stuff that keeps you in the future (things you might need someday) or the past (memory clutter) means you don't live fully now in the present." I don't want to hold so tightly to things of the past or so expectantly to things in the future that I am not living my life today. I know that stuff and clutter affects me (it makes me feel as though I can't get anything done), but I didn't quite relate it to this subject. It does make sense.

Don't wait for something to happen in the future before you can act. Don't refuse to act because of something that has happened in the past (good or bad). I think that women might be more guilty of this than men, but we seem to have a running list in our heads of when the exact right time to do something will be:

I will--buy a house, quit the job I hate, move to a place I love, take a great
vacation--after I get married.

I will--quit the job I hate, make good friends, feel like I've accomplished something--when I have kids.

I will--invite people into my home more when I--have a nicer home, have a husband, know people better, start getting invitations from others.

I will--pursue my dream vocation, go back to school, read more, sew more, scrapbook more, spend more time with friends--when my kids are in school or on their own.

There are several problems with following this pattern of thought. One is that those things that you are waiting for might never happen. Another is that if they do come to pass, you may have missed your shot to do what you wanted to do long ago, either because the opportunity is gone or the fire has burned out. The third is that you simply stop living life, because you're waiting for the next best thing.

Is there one thing that you are waiting to happen before you do something else? Is there something from your past that is holding you back from doing something right now? Will you think about just taking the plunge, right now?

11 comments:

Lindsey @ Enjoythejourney said...

Beautifully said Jennifer. Thank you.

May we all learn to live for today because we may not be granted a tomorrow. Just yesterday a young mom in my community went to be with Jesus after a several year struggle with cancer. She and her family spent those last few years together traveling, playing, and having a ball because they knew time was short. I think she lived more in the last year than most of us do in YEARS, or even in our whole life.

Barb said...

No ma'am. There's nothing I'm waiting for that stops me from living in the day. I learned that lesson a long time ago. This post hits the nail right on the head.

I still smile everytime I see the books in your header. I cannot believe I thought it was bolts of fabric. LOL

Jane said...

This is a great post Jennifer....it really caused me to stop and think. We can't live our lives "on hold", that is so true! Thanks for the timely reminder.

Blessed Beyond Measure said...

I have a big tendency to do that - fill up today with all sorts of things, but dont get to the things I really, really want to do. I keep saying, "in a few years" and they slip by. Great reminder - we can all use that.

Cyndi said...

I loved this post! I went through this a few years ago, I think. I began reading missionary biographies and they really made me think about stepping out there NOW, doing great things for God NOW, and believing Him for big things NOW. It's not just for some other person or some other time. What great thoughts today, thank you! :)

Cyndi said...

Okay, I'm right there with Barb. I thought those were bolts of fabric, too. LOL

Chris said...

A great reminder to treasure what we have today. I am reminded of what Paul said, "Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me."

Rachel Anne said...

This is really a great post...I think I often wait for the perfect time to start something, or I wait until I think I can do a perfect job, rather than just plunging in. I've realized I miss out on some great stuff because it's not "perfect." Very thought-provoking!

Big Mama said...

I loved this Jennifer, and I can't tell you how timely it is that I read it today.

Candace & Anna said...

This is my first time visiting your site and I have to say it hit a nerve. I find to often I just keep thinking I can trudge through until... but the point is I shouldn't trudge I should rejoice and celebrate. Even the trials we have are worth something!!!

org junkie said...

Oh Jennifer this post is awesome! I try so hard to live life in the present but it is sometimes so easy to slip up. I sometimes have to remind myself..."just do it, enough is enough already". Life is too short to live anywhere but right now. The other thing I see is that people who chronically live in the past or the future tend to be very negative people and that is just such a waste of energy. What we have is today, good or bad, so let us rejoice in it!
Thanks for this,
Laura