I'm going to give you some advice that has worked for me all these years of my life. Talk. Just keep talking. Nervous about meeting a new person? Just talk more. A friend of mine pointed out this strategy of mine in junior high. She had come along with us on a beach vacation. We were at the pool at the condo and met some boys our age. Later that night she asked, "Do you know you talk a lot when you're nervous?"
Unsure about how your message will be received? Just talk louder. This especially comes in handy when you are speaking to a toddler. They don't have a very good command of the language yet, so if you speak more loudly, they certainly will respond better. The same goes when you are speaking to someone who doesn't speak English as their first language. Louder is always better to ensure that they understand what you are saying. Are you trying to make a point? Volume evokes confidence. Let those words fly, and add in a few extra words for good measure. Why get to the point when you can embellish?
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Ha! The baby talks that way, like I'm going to understand if she just talks LOUDER AND LOUDER. Actually, I do that too.
I will say that no one has ever had to ask me to speak up. In fact, P often has to remind me to use my inside voice.
I am mortified! I just did a little edit to change "boys are age" to "boys our age." When I'm typing quickly, I have a real problem with those pesky homonyms.
Big Mama--my mom always had to remind me when I was on the phone that I was ON the PHONE and didn't have to talk loudly enough for them to hear me across the neighborhood. . . .
Funny! Since my husband started using earplugs before bed, our outherwise sweet nighttime chats have turned into um - shouting matches. Me because he can't hear me. Him because he assumes I can't hear him either!
This is good and make sure you look them in the eye while shouting I mean talking ;0
I am still chuckling! Hugs!
Ouch, this morning. I've been pondering all night (between sleep and dreams) how I talk too much and sometimes ruin things because of it. Here's the question I always face... how do I slow down my mouth when my heart is racing?
:-)
I always was told the opposite when I was small. Be quiet. Don't talk that fast. Don't talk that loud. Think before talk...
This post is the only positive attitude that I have found on this for a long time and I really enjoyed it - THANKS!
Apparently talking louder also helps the profoundly deaf miraculously hear better, too! ;)
I had a deaf friend a few years ago (we've lost touch, sadly) and my mom would yell at her (nicely, of course, but...). When Mom would walk away, my friend and I just looked at each other and shrugged our shoulders and chuckle. Then I "tell" her what Mom had said.
Too funny! Cute post! :)
Okay, apparently I'm in a hurry, or have suddenly lost all grasp on grammar and the English language in general. I only used about 3 different tenses in that comment - hm. Sorry. ;)
This is hilarious... mostly because I learned (when?) to take the opposite tack in uncomfortable situations. I ask questions to get the other person to talk. (I'm actually a pretty good interviewer.) Problem is, I never get to have my say! :~)
A very cute piece.
Very funny! While I tend to clam up in social situations, I have been known to increase my volume in an attempt to get my 8-month old to spontaneously understand all language. It hasn't worked yet, though. :)
This cracked me up - I loved your friend's comment re being talkative when nervous. Better that than to clam up, if you did that they'd be nervous too, this way they just had their head spinning all night long trying to keep up with you. ooxox
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