When my friends and I saw Mamma Mia* on Broadway a couple of years ago, we laughed and laughed (the movie version is a pretty good representation as well). Towards the end of the show the mother is helping her daughter get ready for her wedding, and they sing "Slipping Through my Fingers." I looked over at my friend Nicole, and I noticed that she was tearing up.
As we were leaving, she said, "I got a little emotional there. I was thinking of me and my mom, and me and Kylie."
Kylie was only 5 or so at that time, but Nicole had the wisdom to know it's coming.
For me, the time has come, and this song is more prescient than ever.
Lyrics | Mama Mia! Soundtracks lyrics - Slipping Through My Fingers lyrics
Amanda keeps marching towards that independent phase of adolescence, questioning our rules and thinking she deserves the what's and why's instead of just doing what we say because we say it.
I can see it happening, and I can also see how quickly we could veer off-track.
The goal is to protect her and guide her in such a way that she doesn't know that we are protecting her and guiding her. We have to be firm, yet unwavering in our love.
Ultimately the goal of parenting is to get them to the point that they are responsible for their own decisions. I understand that. I just didn't think that it would be happening at 10 1/2.